Suicide is no solution


Dear Editor,
Loving yourself is a solution to many problems. But how to do that? Worry not! Do you know the secret to success, satisfaction and a happy life? Self-love is the secret to all this! It is the best gift you can give yourself. Do not end your life because of any failure or conflict. Life is precious; learn to love it.
People who love themselves live a satisfied and happy life. But how can we do that? Love our own self? Like a parent loves its child? Like we love our most prized possessions? How?
When you feel hard to think good things about yourself it means you don’t believe in yourself and it’s time to build a positive self image and love yourself.
Self-perception is the way we think of ourselves. It includes the way we look, walk, talk and do anything! Unfortunately a big problem with teens is that their self-perception is very poor.
In other words, they often under-estimate themselves! They don’t know their true potential. So if you think your problem is that you need to change it!
Everyone has something special and so do you! All you need to do is realise that and change your weakened self-perception! Once you do that, the world will seem a better place to live!
The key here is to love yourself so much that you will not even have enough time to think of the negative things. But the reality is that everyone is not perfect. We all have our flaws and the solution is to be acceptable of our own flaws. When you love yourself of all the strong points that you have and be acceptable of your own flaws, you will have a sense of gratitude towards life. Not only you will love yourself, you will also start to love other people too and be acceptable of their flaws too.
If there is something in you, which you don’t like and can’t bear try to remove that. Try to improve yourself. It could be anything. For example the way you talk and your communication skills. If that is the problem then practice talking. Practice makes a man perfect and in this case a woman too! So practice and you will improve.
Likewise, if you don’t like the way you look because of the fact that you are fat, and then try to get rid of those few extra pounds to love yourself. If may take in a little effort but you will gain a lot of satisfaction. And that is what you need to love yourself and live a satisfied life!
Appreciate yourself at every achievement of yours. No matter how small it is, its an achievement nonetheless and hence deserves applaud and appreciation! Make sure that you give yourself special treatment at success and even small achievements. Be proud of them so that the world knows you have done something important and special!
Life truly is very hectic and we hardly get time for ourselves. But that doesn’t mean you keep neglecting yourself. So take out time from your hectic schedule and listen to your heart. Do something special for yourself and pamper yourself. Just make sure you do pamper yourself once in a while!
Love yourself. Be good to yourself. Treat yourself well. You will discover that, the more you love yourself, the more you will be able to give love to others – and the more others will want to be around you and give love back to you. This is a win – win situation. Loving yourself will ultimately benefit the lives of others you encounter, as well as your own life.
Dr Anamika Khajuria,
Sainik Colony.