In hi-tech era, spare time for your children


Vijay Garg
Everyone likes technology. Its amazing what you can do and find out with use of technology. However, technology itself is addictive and parents are not an exception. Today, most parents pay more attention to their computer or mobiles, than their children. Even some parents stay on social media too much, constantly check their emails, watch television shows or news programmes on their smartphones etc without realising that this behavior can harm their children’s development and well-being to some degree.
According to research done on children psychology, some problems that children experience these days, can be contributed to their parents. Thanks to technology, in present era children feel that they have to compete for their parent’s attention. This is because most of time parents are glued to their light-emitting screens. Some even respond harshly to their children when child tries to get their attention. Many child psychologists believe there’s a serious need to maintain a balance between technology and taking care of your family.
Studies show that a modern parent spends too much of their time online or involved in texting and social media. After working all day and taking care of home, parents often leave very little time that they can commit solely to their children. Family outings, where all family members get a chance to interact and strengthen bonds, are very scarce these days. The inability for parents to control amount of time, they spend on their phones or laptops, is worrisome for their children. This is mainly because children look up to their parents and mimic what they see parents doing. Many kids have become anti-social and some have even become introverts. The ability to develop real-world relationships is missing among people today.
Children may constantly seek attention. A child rearing is not easy. Children are dependent beings that require more attention than adults. Parents constantly being online or on their phones, make children feel deprived of attention they deserve. They may not know how to tell you, but they miss play time, storytelling time, kitchen activities, and so forth. This is not good for the emotional and mental development of a child and may lead the child to a state of stressful life or even lower their self-esteem. A study shows that children whose parents are constantly messing with their phones or on social media feel less supported by their parents, which mainly attribute to lack of communication between parents and the children. Parents don’t get to know what’s going on in their children’s lives or even how they are progressing in school. Communication is extremely important for a child’s development. Lack of communication can easily divide the family.
The modern-day parent on social media loves to post pictures of themselves and their children. They never seem to care how that affects their kids. What you post and comments you make on social media can shape how your children perceive you. Many children say they don’t like some photos their parents share online. Kids have a right to privacy too.
Establish good technology, means simply setting time limits for surfing web and sticking to them. It is most effective if kids are still young. Don’t just set the time limit, but make every effort to stick to it. Spend that extra time each day with your family and give them the attention they need.
Be a role model. One can achieve this in various ways. Avoid fooling around with technological gadgets during dinner. Give your family your full attention at social outings. Listen to them, when they speak to you. It will help the children learn that they, too, need to find a balance between technology and their social life.
Some parents constantly feel the need to access work email and work projects. They wind-up spending too much time checking their mail or in group chats. By turning off work when you get home, you can fully concentrate on your family. You can give your spouse and children the attention they need.
All the studies and findings clearly show that parents need to find a balance between technology and parenting. It not only helps parent to spend more quality time with their family, but they can also monitor their children’s growth and spot behavioral problems. It’s important to know what your children are up to and how they are progressing in life. It helps you to be a better parent besides helps your kids to grow up into responsible adults.